Surrender Is the Beginning, Not the End
Reader Question: That mantra you use is horrible! The third statement says I surrender. Why would you tell people to give up? I expected better from you. (If you’re curious …
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Boundaries for Beginners
“I would rather crawl over broken glass than risk creating conflict. I need better boundaries! Where do I start? ” This was an exciting moment of self-recognition, solid evidence that …
We Are the Ones We’ve Been Waiting For
“[Creole] wanted Sonny to leave the shoreline and strike out for deep water. He was Sonny’s witness that deep water and drowning are not the same thing — he had …
The Disappearance of Love
Once upon a time, you were a baby inside a womb. Inside that womb, you were in love with yourself because you did not know there was any other alternative. …
My “Not-Enough-Ness” is Showing
Somewhere along the way, my value as a person got tangled up with my productivity. The more I could DO, the more valuable I would BE. The inner pressure to …
How to Take Charge of Your Personal Story
Nike’s tagline of Just Do It has entered our everyday language for a good reason. We can never accomplish anything by only thinking about, by only learning more and more …
The Alchemy of Adversity – What Does Grief Have to Do with It?
The Alchemy of Adversity. What does that mean? Well first, alchemy. Alchemy is the medieval precursor of modern-day chemistry, based on a very early and rudimentary understanding about chemical processes …
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Stop Trying So Hard
Yesterday was one of those days. Things went wrong. The pollen was irritating my eyes making it hard to see my computer screen. The tripod fell apart just as we …
What Is the Story You Are Telling Yourself?
(Read below or watch the video here.) Every story we tell ourselves has two parts – the facts – those are external – and the stories we tell ourselves about …
The Blame and Shame Culture of Good Vibrations and Positive Thoughts
Reader Question: (Referencing Your Baggage is the Gateway to Your Superpower) one thing I question is your statement about energy being neither good nor bad. Is energy in your mind different …
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Your Baggage is the Gateway to Your Superpower
The Muses have been full of contrarian perspectives lately, but maybe that’s what muses do – shake up our complacency to reveal things hidden in plain sight. Like our ideas …
The Magic of New Perspectives
The magic is all around us, every minute of every day. The trick is in seeing it. 2019 has been a doozy of a year for so many people. We …
Blessed Are the Sandpaper People….Loving the People Who Annoy Us
You know who they are. They excel at rubbing us the wrong way. They couldn’t be more irritating if they tried. Who knows? Maybe they do try. They’re awfully damn …
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You Cannot See Clearly Through Boiling Water – Why Anger, Hurt, Fear, and Judgment Blur Our Vision
There is a sense of lostness that accompanies anger, hurt, fear, or judgment. You feel lost in the world, isolated by your own feelings. You feel lost in yourself, trapped …
The Risk You Are Afraid to Take
Fear has been a constant companion for much of my life. It started in childhood with parents caught up in their own struggles. There was a reprieve of sorts in …
Finding the Quiet in the Frenzy of December – A Ritual for Year End
In the frenzy of December is a place of deep quiet if we are willing to go there. In that quiet, filters and shields can be lowered. It is safe …
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Invite Forgiveness to Your Holiday Gathering
This the season…. To feel ALL the feelings, good and bad. Especially the ones related to family or lack of family or family that has done you wrong. Like no …
All the Versions of You that Have Not Fit – Embracing Imposter Syndrome
There’s a gap between who we want to be and what we want to do. Inside that gap is a thousand versions of ourselves that don’t quite fit. We experience …
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Becoming Found by Love
My beautiful friend Mal Duane and I recently sat down to talk about the four questions that can lead us to finding love, nurturing the love we already have, and creating …
Portals and Thresholds
I was born on the 8th day of the 11th month. Yesterday. (Birthday officially over, but the feeling of portal opening continues.) Beginning with that birthing date, life has unfolded …