Reader Question: That mantra you use is horrible! The third statement says I surrender. Why would you tell people to give up? I expected better from you. (If you’re curious about the mantra, click HERE , or see it in action HERE or HERE.) I’m so glad she asked… We’ve been well-schooled that surrender means …
“I would rather crawl over broken glass than risk creating conflict. I need better boundaries! Where do I start? ” This was an exciting moment of self-recognition, solid evidence that the speaker is on the road to her own Becoming. She realized that setting self-nurturing personal boundaries and lovingly tending them is essential. She was …
“[Creole] wanted Sonny to leave the shoreline and strike out for deep water. He was Sonny’s witness that deep water and drowning are not the same thing — he had been there, and he knew.” ~ from “Sonny’s Blues,” a short story by James Baldwin Deep water and drowning are not the same thing. That …
Once upon a time, you were a baby inside a womb. Inside that womb, you were in love with yourself because you did not know there was any other alternative. Your only job was to float inside the womb loving yourself, and you did it well. You and your host body were One. That was …
Somewhere along the way, my value as a person got tangled up with my productivity. The more I could DO, the more valuable I would BE. The inner pressure to do more and uplevel my perceived value became intense. The “beatings” became severe – You’re getting behind. You didn’t finish that. Any dummy could figure …
Nike’s tagline of Just Do It has entered our everyday language for a good reason. We can never accomplish anything by only thinking about, by only learning more and more about how to do it. If we don’t put that thinking and learning into action, they become stagnant. And bloated. They begin to fester. At …
The Alchemy of Adversity. What does that mean? Well first, alchemy. Alchemy is the medieval precursor of modern-day chemistry, based on a very early and rudimentary understanding about chemical processes and transformation of matter. It was concerned particularly with attempts to change other metals into gold. The idea was that if they could melt off …
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Yesterday was one of those days. Things went wrong. The pollen was irritating my eyes making it hard to see my computer screen. The tripod fell apart just as we were about to go live with the message for the day. The live itself crashed about halfway through. And those are just the highlights. The …
(Read below or watch the video here.) Every story we tell ourselves has two parts – the facts – those are external – and the stories we tell ourselves about what those facts mean – that’s completely internal and highly individual. One part we often cannot control. The other part we can learn to command. …
Reader Question: (Referencing Your Baggage is the Gateway to Your Superpower) one thing I question is your statement about energy being neither good nor bad. Is energy in your mind different than vibration? In Law of Attraction they’re all about keeping your vibrational energy high. Which makes me assume they’re saying energy can be positive or …
The Blame and Shame Culture of Good Vibrations and Positive Thoughts Read More »
The Muses have been full of contrarian perspectives lately, but maybe that’s what muses do – shake up our complacency to reveal things hidden in plain sight. Like our ideas about baggage. That baggage is something “bad” that we need to get rid of, be relieved of, get unstuck from. The question that has been …
The magic is all around us, every minute of every day. The trick is in seeing it. 2019 has been a doozy of a year for so many people. We could say the fault is in the stars. We could also say the magic is in the stars. Both perspectives are valid. Some of you …
You know who they are. They excel at rubbing us the wrong way. They couldn’t be more irritating if they tried. Who knows? Maybe they do try. They’re awfully damn good at being irritating. Surely, being that good at something takes deliberate practice. They’re like human mosquitoes. What purpose could they possibly serve other than …
Blessed Are the Sandpaper People….Loving the People Who Annoy Us Read More »
There is a sense of lostness that accompanies anger, hurt, fear, or judgment. You feel lost in the world, isolated by your own feelings. You feel lost in yourself, trapped by your own feelings. The deep dark woods of lostness feel full of sharp objects, dangerous ledges, and threatening spectres that only make the feelings …
Fear has been a constant companion for much of my life. It started in childhood with parents caught up in their own struggles. There was a reprieve of sorts in early adulthood, blithely believing the conventional choices would keep me safe. It resurged like a tsunami in my 40s after realizing that the safe choices …
In the frenzy of December is a place of deep quiet if we are willing to go there. In that quiet, filters and shields can be lowered. It is safe to let in vulnerability and love. It is possible to see and feel the year that is winding down from a fresh perspective. In that …
Finding the Quiet in the Frenzy of December – A Ritual for Year End Read More »
This the season…. To feel ALL the feelings, good and bad. Especially the ones related to family or lack of family or family that has done you wrong. Like no other time of the year, the holidays are a minefield of love and unforgiveness, sometimes in equal measure. Seeing all these people is almost guaranteed …
There’s a gap between who we want to be and what we want to do. Inside that gap is a thousand versions of ourselves that don’t quite fit. We experience that gap as Imposter Syndrome, and bridging it, sometimes moment by moment, is vital to our ongoing process of connecting with the true self we …
All the Versions of You that Have Not Fit – Embracing Imposter Syndrome Read More »
I was born on the 8th day of the 11th month. Yesterday. (Birthday officially over, but the feeling of portal opening continues.) Beginning with that birthing date, life has unfolded in 8 year increments, each life octave having its own “curriculum” with a seismic event in the 8th year, starting with my first known vision …
“All too often our so-called strength comes from fear, not love; instead of having a strong back, many of us have a defended front shielding a weak spine. In other words, we walk around brittle and defensive, trying to conceal our lack of confidence.” ~ Roshi Joan Hallifax This is where it gets real. In …
Self Care and Belonging – Strong Back, Soft Front, Wild Heart Read More »
