That person who always needs to be right may have grown up in a home where it wasn’t safe to be wrong. Being right may have been born as a …
That Irritating Person Who Always Needs to Be Right Read More »
Two winters ago, an attractive house I pass nearly every day burned. All people and pets got out safely. From the street, there seemed to be little damage. You had …
Once upon a time, you were a baby inside a womb. Inside that womb, you were in love with yourself because you did not know there was any other alternative. …
Nike’s tagline of Just Do It has entered our everyday language for a good reason. We can never accomplish anything by only thinking about, by only learning more and more …
The Muses have been full of contrarian perspectives lately, but maybe that’s what muses do – shake up our complacency to reveal things hidden in plain sight. Like our ideas …
Fear has been a constant companion for much of my life. It started in childhood with parents caught up in their own struggles. There was a reprieve of sorts in …
In the frenzy of December is a place of deep quiet if we are willing to go there. In that quiet, filters and shields can be lowered. It is safe …
Finding the Quiet in the Frenzy of December – A Ritual for Year End Read More »
There’s a gap between who we want to be and what we want to do. Inside that gap is a thousand versions of ourselves that don’t quite fit. We experience …
All the Versions of You that Have Not Fit – Embracing Imposter Syndrome Read More »
“All too often our so-called strength comes from fear, not love; instead of having a strong back, many of us have a defended front shielding a weak spine. In other …
Self Care and Belonging – Strong Back, Soft Front, Wild Heart Read More »
It’s easy to hate people when we depersonalize them and keep them at arm’s length. But when we get to know them, when their troubles and struggles become real, when …
When we are in crisis… when we are feeling utterly lost and tested… when life feels like it’s crashing all around us… we still have a lifeline – the knowingness …
According to Carl Jung, paradox is essential for understanding. How would we know hot without cold? How would we know up without down? How would we know truth without lies? …
Is your sense of belonging dependent upon feeling in control? When her husband offered her the trip she had longed for, instead of getting excited, Cynthia Occelli freaked out and …
True belonging. Those words conjure up a very specific picture for me as a recovering fitting-in person. Striving to fit in had only created a false sense of belonging that …
Most of my career was spent in a world dominated by men, tough men, primarily engineering types. I’m a smallish woman who danced ballet, played the piano, read everything, and …
In Braving the Wilderness, Brené Brown speaks candidly and transparently about using self-destructive behaviors to soothe the lack of belonging she so keenly felt. She quotes Anne Lamott to describe …
We recently sold our childhood home. As I stood in front of it for the last time that it was still part of our family, memories began flooding in. There …
What does “belonging” mean to you? The dictionary defines it as being a member or part of a particular group, organization, or class. As children, our first desire is to …
I’ve been reading Braving the Wilderness – The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone, the newest book from social scientist Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, and want …
Braving the Wilderness – The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone Read More »
The calendar may say April, but the weather is once again chilly, rainy, and utterly dreary. It feels more like Day 97 of January than mid-spring. And that makes it …
Almost-Famous Marinara Sauce – Good for the Body and Soul (Recipe Included) Read More »
