Why Do We Create the Same Relationships Over and Over? Advice from Soulmate Dance.

Why Do We Create the Same Relationships Over and Over?

Anne Wade Mindset and Personal Growth 1 Comment

Why Do We Create the Same Relationships Over and Over? Advice from Soulmate Dance. Why do we create the same relationships over and over? Especially when we are working as hard as we can on ourselves. And especially if we really truly genuinely want loving supportive relationships of all kinds?

Item 5 on Sonia Choquette's splendid 12 step list for forgiveness speaks directly to this:

See ALL events as opportunities to grow and mature your soul.

To that I would add "See all events and relationships..."

Lessons in life are repeated in their entirety until learned. That's how we remember the path and return to original unconditional love. The way to attract a different partner (lover, friend, health, money) is to work on becoming like the partner you want to attract.  Nurture in you the qualities and characteristics you want in friends and lovers, health and finances. It's always an inside job and the people we need , help us get there will continue to show up.

And that’s why sometimes, no matter how hard we try, it seems as if the same old relationships keep showing up. That's because there is still something to be gained from that particular experience, some nugget of wisdom and soul healing that we still need to recognize.

Soulmates have long been thought of that perfect romantic partner. If we can magically find this perfect person, then life will be perfect. As nice as that sounds, the truth is that our soulmates serve a much richer purpose. Soulmates are those kindred spirits who show up in our lives to help us grow and evolve and become ready for our beloved. You know them because there is a feeling of instant connection, of chemistry. It can happen with a friend, colleague, r acquaintance as well as with a lover. Sometimes they work out beautifully. Sometimes they blow up. Sometimes they simmer. Sometimes they fizzle. Sometimes they are warm and fuzzy. Sometimes they are more like sandpaper, rubbing us wrong to bring out the beauty of our grain.

If we can learn to look at each relationship and experience as a gift of new enlightenment, we'll begin to see the nuggets of wisdom they are carrying. We’ll begin making shifts within ourselves based on that wisdom. And as we move our inner pieces round to form new pictures and tell new stories, we will attract different people or relate differently to the ones already in our lives.

Need a fun example? Watch Bill Murray’s classic movie Groundhog Day. Notice that it takes him a while to realize he can incorporate what he has learned from the previous day and leap over those lessons to whatever comes next.

Remember - It’s these shifts, these gifts from those same old repeated relationships, that get us ready to "graduate" to a new kind of relationship, the one we so crave with our Beloveds.

Remember – We are subconsciously inviting these relationships to repeat and there is a true purpose to the repetition. Another way to look at it is that your soul is so hungry for enlightenment that it invites, BEGS, the same relationships to repeat until that bit of enlightenment is internalized.

That's a hard pill to swallow for many, but what a gift! We are so dearly loved that Love itself will continue giving us the same opportunity over and over until we have our Ah-Ha moment. It never gets impatient. It never says "Why didn't you get this the first 42 times?" It simply loves us, unconditionally, and repeats as many times as needed for the sake of our sweet soul's enlightenment. Patiently, tirelessly, tenderly.

 

Twelve Simple Steps to Forgiveness ~ Sonia Choquette

1. Don’t take anything personally.

2. Don’t attack yourself for mistakes.

3. Claim the gifts hidden in perceived injuries.

4. Take responsibility for the part you play in upset and injury.

5. See all events as opportunities to grow and mature your soul.

6. Forgive yourself first.

7. Pray for help in forgiving.

8. Develop a strong sense of humor.

9. Recommit to your goals and get back on track.

10. Count your blessings.

11. Stop rehashing past injuries and don’t talk about them anymore.

12. Talk about today’s positive events.

 

 

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